Do You Wish For The Good Old Days?

“Don’t always be asking, “Where are the good old days?” Wise folks don’t ask questions like that.” Ecclesiastes 7:10 MSG

There’s always something in the past that we’re fond of. It could be mum’s special delicacy, your status in school, awards won, that crazy ex, seasons of financial prosperity or just childhood memories of not worrying about anything. It’s bliss to just sit, remember and smile at those memories. And there’s nothing wrong with that.

Dwelling on memories is what becomes harmful. To dwell on the past is to not accept your current reality. You look at what used to be and wish everything just goes back to how they were. This isn’t healthy.

Not accepting your current reality will prevent you from finding what needs to be fixed. If as a man, all you think about is how your mum was the best cook, you’ll end up comparing your wife to her and just ruin your relationship. If your earlier success in your career has taken over your mind, then expect to be stagnant in your current state.

For the longest time, all I did was wish I could still invest most of my monthly income into trying new projects just as I did while single. With growing responsibilities as a father, that’s no longer possible. That refusal to accept my current state kept me at the same income level for a while before I snapped back to reality and started exploring opportunities for income growth.

Your past experiences can help provide solutions to current realities but dwelling on the past and comparing it with the present is never the solution. Our focus scripture calls this ‘folly’.

Let’s be wise. We have memories so we can learn from and appreciate the journey. But we live in the present. Each new day is an opportunity to make the present count. Use this gift wisely.